tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post5738121994196653539..comments2023-10-25T04:27:12.872-07:00Comments on Traces of Ayden: When people "get it"Lindsayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07289549963275047672noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-83493935411736183122012-08-10T21:29:51.660-07:002012-08-10T21:29:51.660-07:00Like you said, even parents who haven't lost a...Like you said, even parents who haven't lost a child. have the same feelings as you do. Cody & I are both verrrrrry overprotective. We say all the time that there is no such thing as being too overprotective. We don't even let Landon play in the front yard b/c we're afraid a car might run off the road & run him over. We're not even comfortable letting him play in the backyard unsupervised. You & Jeremy are exceptional parents! Ayden, Collen, & Charlotte are blessed to have y'all as their Mama & Daddy :)Lauren.B.Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15656096703626472928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-50080076765288134702012-08-10T08:10:03.463-07:002012-08-10T08:10:03.463-07:00It's completely normal! Part of me always worr...It's completely normal! Part of me always worries when my kids aren't with me, even if they're at home with my husband. Even if they're asleep! My brain needs to SEE THEM. <br /><br />.ivyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-71949957129390237312012-08-02T15:06:33.195-07:002012-08-02T15:06:33.195-07:00I agree that you should never apologize for going ...I agree that you should never apologize for going with your gut and doing the best parenting you know to do. And we all handle the situations thrown at us in different ways. No one way is right. <br /><br />But I can tell you that I grew up "the younger sibling who survived." And it's a heavy burden for a child to bear. I was overprotected and doted over in a degree that was actually unhealthy, in my opinion. Once I was old enough to finally be self destructive, I was.<br /><br />But as parents we just do the best we can with what we know. We can only do the best we can every day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-78924046282874982272012-08-02T13:04:40.024-07:002012-08-02T13:04:40.024-07:00I've never experienced a loss like you have bu...I've never experienced a loss like you have but I am a mom and can totally relate to feeling like they are safest with me. And not wanting to be away from them! Who cares what anyone else thinks... that's the beauty of being the mom...you get to set the rules. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-91316356517583785692012-08-02T05:19:05.779-07:002012-08-02T05:19:05.779-07:00I have been there in regards to the "no one w...I have been there in regards to the "no one will look after my baby like I can"--to the fact it was crippling to me emotionally and mentally when Molly was a newborn. I don't think you're crazy or overly paranoid. Our lives, our way of parenting, our perspectives have all changed because of sweet Ayden. We love you guys--and we feel the need to protect your children as well. :)Seriously.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14530518325502336153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-2160700795039013082012-08-01T21:47:56.461-07:002012-08-01T21:47:56.461-07:00((((hugs))))) i'm 11 years into this journey w...((((hugs))))) i'm 11 years into this journey with living children ages 13,11,10,8 and 1.5. i STILL have to forcibly pray through so much of the letting go process. especially with my teenager. but the funny thing is, the "big kids" are as protective over "the baby" as i am. they just don't quite understand why i am just as protective over them too. my babies in heaven would be 12, 11,6,and 3.bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13338099802954577987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-87077695201104208592012-08-01T21:34:56.976-07:002012-08-01T21:34:56.976-07:00We have no reason to ever apologize to anyone for ...We have no reason to ever apologize to anyone for being overprotective. It is nice to be understood but if someone doesn't "get it" that is okay, because at the end of the day we need to know we did what is best for our family. <br /><br />A mother recently told me there is no such thing as being overprotective with your kids in this world - no matter what you've been through, and I think she's right!<br /><br />I feel the same way you do!!!<br />God bless, KelleyA Mother's Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00411629514460423349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-36577295206773626722012-08-01T21:14:21.818-07:002012-08-01T21:14:21.818-07:00I know that as they get older...I'm going to h...I know that as they get older...I'm going to have to let go. They're going to want to stay at a friend's house or ride home with a friend. During the day while I'm at work, they will be out of my sight, and I am so grateful for a sitter who will be with the 2 of them only. And she is wonderful! I trust her completely, which helps give me peace of mind. <br /><br />Like I said...I think it applies to all parents..it's definitely not limited to ones who have lost children. I guess we all just have our comfort levels...and they can change depending on the situation as well. <br /><br />Parenting...such a rewarding experience but also such a huge, stressful responsibility! :)Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07289549963275047672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-75284748049257590182012-08-01T19:57:34.144-07:002012-08-01T19:57:34.144-07:00I totally understand. I have said that same thing...I totally understand. I have said that same thing to myself - "I just can't do it again." When we were at the beach, I got very anxious with Sierra out in the waves, even though she was with her daddy. What if they both got knocked over, and she can't swim? I haven't left my baby overnight yet, and I don't plan on doing it. It felt like I was pregnant for 2 years, just to have him, so I want to enjoy every millisecond that I can. Before I know it, he will be going off to school. And in true baby loss style, after I write that, I think to myself "unless something bad happends to him before then." Sigh...Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03402501717587035112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796487427937375263.post-13749257619508610272012-08-01T19:45:55.632-07:002012-08-01T19:45:55.632-07:00I have no reason to be that way thankfully and alt...I have no reason to be that way thankfully and although I do leave them with my parents for some time and allow them to drive them to and from school while I work, I hover and worry too. It is nice to know that it is OK.The Munchkins Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09820242145462517957noreply@blogger.com